A true life account.

Guy C met Girl T from a friend’s introduction. After talking to her, he realised that both of them share similar passion and interests.
As Guy C was busy with exams at that time, he decided to “KIV” this potential relationship and did not maintain much contact with Girl T.

After his exams, he decided that it’s finally time to take action! He wanted to ask Girl T out but couldn’t think of a reason to do so. So he procrastinated for another week. Then one day, he decided that he must ask by the eve of good friday. He knew that Girl T will be online on msn for the whole day. So he took a morning nap. When he woke up, Girl T was offline already. Atlas, he missed yet another good chance to ask her out during the holiday stretch.

Finally Guy C managed to catch Girl T on msn on a weekday morning and asked her out. He arranged for an outing 2 days later. Just on the eve of the outing, Guy C’s friend told him that Girl T is already attached to another guy 1 day ago.

So much for procrastinating and the morning nap. If he had did something earlier, he would have at least presented himself as an option to Girl T.

In life, many opportunities are missed because we procrastinate.
“I can study after I watch this youtube mtv.” In the end, you went to sleep instead of study. As a result, you missed that A.
“The stock price is escalating. It is now at $0.59. I will monitor it for 1-2 hours more before deciding if i should buy it.” After 2 hours, the price is $0.65.
” I can always ask her out after I am more free. Call her? No lah. I have more important things to do.” Few days later, you realised that she is another man’s girlfriend.

In relationship, “the golden period” is very important. Girls will not wait too long for a guy. Once you have missed that, you can’t even hope for a miracle to happen.

DO NOT Procrastinate! Date your dream girl out as soon as possible! For all you know, what you do this minute may bring you a lifetime of happiness.

-Chelestiar

Recently I taught one of my friends how to improve his chances by using “Friendster” (http://www.friendster.com)

–> Login to your friendster account.

–> Go to “Search”

–> Filter the type of men/women you are looking for by using “keywords”, “age”, “country” at the left hand column.

–> A list of profiles will appear. Click on the ones whom you would like to know better and drop them a message.

Your message could be something as follows.

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” Dear XXX (The name of the person),

I came across your profile on friendster today and found that you are a dog lover as well! (Can be anything from hobbies, religion, pets etc…). Hope that I can be your friend and along the way, we can share with each other some tips on how to take care of our pet!

By the way, my dog is 3 months old. What are some toys which you will recommend?” (By leaving a question here, it will enhance your chances of getting a reply.)
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Should he/she replies and you would like to have more tips on how to follow up, please feel free to email me at info@love-clinic.com
with email title “Friendster Tips”

- chelestiar

In our book, “Love Clinic - How To Lose Your Bachelor’s Degree”, we mentioned about Murphy’s Law for the first date. Anything that can go wrong, will go wrong.

One of our readers recently arranged for a tennis game with the woman of his dreams. He has planned everything well beforehand, such as booking of the courts, preparing the equipment, and even buying his friend’s favourite drink at the supermarket. Atlas. 15 minutes before the scheduled time, it rained heavily and his date called to cancel the meeting.

While you may try everything to make sure that everything goes right, there is still the element of “fate” and “luck” in every relationship. For this reader of ours, he has done everything he could to make sure everything goes right. He only has heaven to blame for raining at the wrong time. However, rather than allowing his date to cancel off the meeting, there are certain things he could do to reverse the situation to his advantage.

Always have a backup plan and offer alternatives. In life, not everything will go smoothly in your way. If you meet with an obstacle, take a step back and analyse the situation from a different perspective. Can I meet her for an indoor activity instead? Can we meet for dinner? How about let’s arrange another day to make up for this tennis game that we have missed? These are some of the things that could have been done to ensure that you’ll still get a memorable date, even if luck is not on your side.

Remember, if you analyse love and relationships from a different perspective, even murphy’s law can be reversed!

Good Luck!

- Chelestiar

Today I googled the definition of “Romance”.

Some of the answers I got…

Romance is a love affair, relationship between 2 lovers.
Romance is a state of being, about taking action on your feelings.
Romance is the exciting and the unexpected.

One of the answers which caught my eye - Romance is something which makes the other party remember for eternity.

She might have received a dozen roses from her previous suitors. She should have gone for multiple candlelight dinners. Her previous boyfriends would have already held her hand and stroll with her along the river. So how do you come up with something new, something special, so that she will remember for life?

How about blindfolding her and then drive her to her favourite restaurant? Or perhaps you can pretend to kidnap her and hold her hostage at your bedroom where you recite her her favourite love poem. Hey! All these happen inm romantic movies. Surely they will constitute a girl’s definition of romance!

You may spend lots of time coming up with gimmicks and tricks to make your girl feel romantic. But to a girl, sometimes it is not what you do that made her feel romantic. More of who she is when she is with you… …

-chelestiar

“Love will end. But experiences will remain” (anonymous)

Many a times, after a break up, what remains and hurts is the memory of the other person. What lingers in your mind will be those happy times spent together with him/her, the new things he/she has taught you, the experiences both of you shared. You may feel sad that all those have become a thing of the past and hope that you canl go back to the time when love is at its peak! You may also think that what you have left now is a broken and failed relationship and that you are failure in life.

However, not every broken relationship is a negative one. In fact, there are a lot of positive things that you can gather from it.

Remember how you managed to learn roller blading only after your 1st boyfriend taught you how. Remember how your partner motivated you to strive for the best in yourself and you managed to get excellent results after that. Remember how your first love taught a “square” person like you how to kiss another person. All these, though memories to you now, have definitely shaped you to become a better person.

Even though your love with a particular person has ended, the positive experiences you have gathered will always remain. Rather than feeling depressed over lost love, bring over these positive learnings into your next relationship. By doing so, you will realise that every relationship is always better than the previous one.

-chelestiar

Recently I watched a chinese show.

In this show, Guy A falls for Girl B who is crippled. The reason why Guy A fell for her is because he felt like a gentleman whenever he is with her - being able to protect her, helping her out in her daily activities etc…

In the end, Girl B asked Guy A if he would have loved her if she had not been handicapped.

It was then that Guy A realised that what he loved was girl B’s imperfection, instead of his partner as a person… …

A few months ago, I asked my friends this question. Would you rather select someone who is a 100% good person but only loves you 70%, or would you select one who loves you 100%, but is only a 70% good person? Most of them chose the latter. The reason they gave was that they are imperfect themselves. Why choose someone who is perfect?

In life, we may end up selecting another person who is imperfect. For example, some girls like to date “bad guys” because they hope that they will be able to change him. Some gorgeous babes dated guys whose looks are extremely incompatible with theirs. Some deliberately marry those of a much lower education level or low income.

Some have attributed this phenomena of “Loving imperfection” to that of self fulfilling egoistic prophecies. By being together with an imperfect person, you can realise how perfect you are.

“You may start off with a piece of raw and unslightly wood. But with the appropriate time and effort, you can carve it into a beautiful masterpiece.” You may have started off with a person with many flaws. But if you love him/her with all your heart, you can get perfect love out from imperfection.

Here is wishing you a perfect love life!

-Chelestiar

In Fengshui, a person’s luck depends on 3 factors - Heaven, Earth and Man.

- Chelestiar

Many people have asked me, “Eugene, how do I know whether I will be happy in marriage?” “How do I know if someone is a suitable husband/wife?”

- Eugene

Hi and welcome!

Eugene Tan

Some time ago, I went into the Operating Theatre to witness a Caesarian Section* for breech**.

- Chelestiar