A lively Question and Answer Session
followed with some interesting points raised. We shall highlight
some controversial questions raised and the learning points we gathered.
Q: "We are very busy people. Many of
us work past 7pm and are very tired after work so we have very little
time to go for dates. You know, sometimes we will only assess the
opposite party over the phone. Only if they "pass" the phone round, will
we allow ourselves to go out with them on a date. Is there any short cut
to finding out what a person is without spending too much time going on
A: "It is true that many
of us are preoccupied with work. No wonder some say that Singaporeans
may make one of the most unromantic lovers. It really depends on what a
person's priority in life is. If he just wants to be a successful person
without a wife or husband, so be it.
However, one has to
realise that there are many aspects to life. One can concentrate on
building a career and become a CEO at the age of 40 but he may have
missed out on romance. He is a success in his career but a failure when
it comes to family life. Personally I think it is better to strike a
Phone conversations has
its limitations. Phone conversation only contains one of the modalities
of communication and that is the voice. The other modalities such as
visual and touch are absent. Body language is definitely absent from a
There really isn't any
shortcut to dating. Dating is one of the most effective ways in finding
out if your dream guy or girl is really what you think him/her out to
be. Going out together also lets you experience what is it like to
be together at that moment and whether or not you are feeling at ease
with each other.
Q: What do guys think of girls who
make the first move? Will they be turned off? What are some of the ways
that girls may hint without being seen to be overly aggressive?
I feel that nowadays with
our modern society, there's really nothing wrong in girls making the
first move. There are many advantages. For one, girls can now pursue for
their dream guy instead of waiting and then choosing from the limited
pool of guys who are yearning for her. I think the modern guy will find
the girl who make the first move a unique person who is frank in
expressing her opinions. This is also one of the traits for a successful
relationship. Most guy's would not be turned off. It really depends on
how the guy feels about the girl. If he does have some good feelings for
the girl, the relationship will definitely blossom.
Girls can hint by simply
being nice to the guy. You can be more accommodating towards him and
laugh at his jokes. You will look forward to his phone calls and will
provide much content for whatever conversation you may have instead of
simple one word answers.
Love Clinic advises
ladies out there to be frank with your feelings. If you do like a guy,
let him know. It is up to him whether or not he wants to return the ball
to your side of the court.