Dear Dr. Love,
I was recently heartbroken because my friend, whom I had feelings for,
is now in a relationship with someone I know. She says that she doesn't
love him, but she likes him. I had already told her that I love her, but
she said that she only sees me as a friend. We were intimate in the
past, but she says that's only because she liked me a little bit, and
she only saw me as a friend. But for some reason, my mind tells me to
still go after her.
After all, she doesn't love him, and it's only been six days since
they've been together. She said the relationship is still unstable, and
it's still weak. What should I do? My heart tells me to go after her
despite the fact that she doesn't feel the same, but if there is any
glimmer of hope..... I love her so much. The whole thought of being
without her makes me sad. What can I do?
It's a little strange that a new relationship is unstable, because
relationships are usually strongest when they first begin. But since she
told you that her relationship is not steady yet, I suppose there's a
chance that she may fall in love with someone else who catches her eye.
I can understand that you love her very much, and in such a case it may
be worthwhile to give a try. Ask her out for a meal or coffee, and tell
her again how much you love her and ask her why she thinks you are not
suitable as her boyfriend. She may have her own special reasons why she
chose him instead of you. But do not appear too desperate, because girls
don't like guys who are "hungry and desperate".
If she persistently rejects you, don't despair. She's not the only girl
in this world. Give yourself some time to get over her, and move on. I'm
sure there are many other girls who are suitable for you once you start
looking. It'd be helpful to attend all your friends' outings, parties
and other social functions to increase your
opportunities of finding your dream girl.
All the best.