Dear Dr Love,
Well I met a girl on the Internet and think I'm in love with her. What
should I do?
Meeting someone on the internet is becoming more and more common these
days with the use of internet messaging software as well as internet
relay chat rooms. Falling in love with someone you met online is also a
common phenomenon. We would like you to be aware of the following
differences between dating online and dating in person.
Communication online is only via one
modality which is typing out a sentence viewed by the other party on the
screen. Someone may sound very nice online but turn out to be otherwise
in reality. You also cannot judge her body language and what kind of
person she is based on messages she sent to you.
Actions you can do now
from talking to her online, ask for her telephone number and progress
onto talking on the phone. Build up the comfort level in the
communication between the two of you.
that you and her exchange photographs with each other. At love clinic,
we feel that falling in love with a person is accepting the other person
as much as one can. In choosing a life partner, it is important to be
aware of how the other party looks like and whether he or she is
pleasant to your eyes. A photograph also puts a face to the nickname
whom you are constantly messaging with.
off as friends. It is never advised that you should rush into a
relationship that fast. She might not have known you enough to consider
being more than friends with you.
her out on date once you know more about her.
By knowing her a little
more each day through the many modalities of communication, she will
feel increasingly comfortable with you and you will be in a much better
position to win her heart. Read our book: Love Clinic for more dating
strategies. Good luck!