1. Tell us about
young (actually 24) Chinese male, currently studying in a Singapore
university, but surprisingly still single.
2. What's the main
criteria you're looking for in a life partner?
Playful but not childish, studious but not nerdy, cute but not ugly,
humorous but not sleazy, smart but dun act smart, loyal but not a dog,
to name a few.
My love criteria is
simple yet difficult to achieve too. She must love me AND I must love
her too…that’s all!!
you see an attractive girl studying alone in the library, what will you
Well I assume this
question means what I would do if I’m interested in her but I don’t know
her. I guess the answer is very situation dependent too…like if she is
studying that same subject as you, or if the library is very crowded at
that time etc…but well perhaps I might, for a start, strike a
conversation with her. Maybe seek help on the library rules, or usage of
facilities etc before introducing yourself. This lays the foundation for
future encounters in the library.
4. What is the best
excuse you have used when asking a girl for her contact number?
Actually I have never
tried going to a stranger and ask for her contacts, though I hope to try
that one day.
5. Should a guy pay
for the first date? Why?
Don’t really had a best excuse so far…but just to share two simple
thoughts which I MIGHT use in future.
Going up to a girl sitting alone (who is a stranger of course), will sit
down beside her maybe read a book for a while. Then look at her
handphone and ask her “hey that’s a very nice HP you have, what model is
it”, followed by a series of exchanges regarding that phone, which will
lead to the question “can I take a look at it”? And once I have that
phone in hand, will then ask…”can I leave you my contacts”? And
hopefully she gets what I mean and we can develop from there…
Again, sitting down beside the girl, I would start by taking out my own
HP, try meddling with it for a while before asking her “hey miss, can
you help me with my phone for while, it seems to have some
problems”….and being a typical helpful pretty lady, she would agree and
after a while I would then ask “you mind if you give me a miss call to
see if my phone is working already”…
I guess most people’s
answer would be a definite YES. But of course it is not absolute. My
idea of a date is one that should be enjoyable. And to be enjoyable, the
first thing is to get money issues out of the way. If the guy has been
paying for the movie tickets, zoo entry tickets, taxi fares, buying
little snacks etc etc whole day long, and when its dinner time, the girl
volunteered and insisted to pay for the meal (esp if the guy is a poor
student and the girl is actually working already), then let her… why
argue over such a small matter.
6. If your love rival
is the top Casanova in Singapore, what will you do?
Does such a person
exist? Haha. Anyway, I would still pursue the girl as I would in the
absence the strong love rival. My philosophy is “if you don’t try, it
would never happen”. You want the girl, you must work for it, no matter
how slim the chances are. At the end of the day, a good point to tell
oneself is “every girl is unique and has differing criteria for future
spouse, and who knows you might just be her preferable choice over the
so called top Casanova of Singapore”. Remember, ask, and you might just
7. Will you consider
a woman who is 10 years older than you? If yes, what strategy will you employ when dating her?
My answer is yes, if
she seriously attracted me and I too, seriously attracted her, and we
are both madly in love with one another. The attraction overrides the
age gap I suppose. Well 10 years is a big, yet not too big age gap, and
one should again seriously reconsider the decision. Maybe a platonic
relationship would be a better choice.
8. Do you think it is
possible for a guy and girl to have an entirely platonic relationship?
As for what strategy I would use, I can’t think of any answers to this
question. Cos I don’t think I would actively date the “older girl” (or
rather woman). Should we fall in love, it would probably be insidious
and “accidentally” rather than deliberate dating.
Well anything is
possible isn’t it. Even man can be cloned nowadays.
9. How should a guy
reject a girl without hurting her feelings too much?
This question can be broken up into 2 parts: can a guy have an entirely
platonic relationship with a girl and can a girl have an entirely
platonic relationship with a guy? I can’t say I know women very well but
I always felt that it’s easier for a girl to accept such a relationship
than a guy. Guys fantasizes much more easily than gals I guess. But
since everything is in the mind, put away those fantasies and a platonic
relationship can be achieved.
I don’t know a good
answer to this. Rejections are always painful I guess. I always believe
that to be loved is a fortunate thing, but to be loved by someone who
you don’t may not be that fortunate after all, and rejections are
inevitable. The bottomline line is, I would not know what to do if this
happens to me, since I’m a person who doesn’t know how to reject very
well. I would have to approach Love Clinic for advice I guess. Why is
Love Clinic around in the first place.
11. What do you think
of Love Clinic?
It’s an innovative
concept. A clinic for love. Wow…isn’t that what many of us need, since
love may be the source of happiness for many, yet can be the source of
great pain and sadness as well. And you do go to see a doctor when you
How great if there is a doctor whom you can approach if you have a
problem with love, who can help to diagnose the problem, find out the
aetiology, treat the cause or provide long term management for the love
I wish Love Clinic success!