Finally, after months of searching, you saw that special someone who took your breath away. How can you walk straight up to her and make your presence felt? How can you get her contact number to lay the foundation for future development? Most importantly, how can you try to know her better to determine if she is the RIGHT one for you?

Making Your Presence Felt

You must have read many articles about women being attracted by alpha males. Face it. This is absolutely true. For those readers who may want a definition of “alpha males”, here goes:

Alpha male: individual in the community to whom the others follow and defer.

Alpha males are associated with attributes such as power, energy and good communication. Power includes traits such as confidence, status (both financial and social) and leadership ability. Energy encompasses physical dynamism, intellectual superiority and strong mental will power. Good communication refers to having the capability to sustain an entertaining conversation with a member of the opposite gender.

In the initial stage, there is no use acting overly humble in front of the girl you are interested in. It is time to flaunt your strong attributes in front of her, though not in an excessive manner.

In the scenario that she is alone, the task will be much easier for you. Muster all the courage you have, put on your widest smile, walk towards her and introduce yourself in your most macho voice. You can open up the conversation by asking why she is here. If you prefer not to start your conversation by asking her a question, you can give a brief description of the surroundings. For example, you can say something like, “Wow, the music here is pretty cool!” and see how she responds from there.

If she is with a big group of friends, the onus would be on you to make yourself attractive, not only to her, but also to her group of friends! This may sound difficult, but after a few tries, you will be able to do so with breeze. Usually the entire group has something in common. Hence, you can start by asking where they come from, their occupation etc… Do not focus all your conversation solely on one person. Try tackling them as a group initially and slowly move your attention to the lady of your choice.

Mix and Match – Communication Permutations

You may have played the game “Mix and Match” when you were a child. In the game, you will need to try different combinations and permutations to get a picture you desire. The same goes for leaving a deep impression on your lady. You will need to try different conversation topics until you hit something in common with her.

Girls are generally interested in shopping, food and TV. You can try your luck on these conversation starters. If you fail to have anything in common with her, try talking to her about sports, the arts or pets. If all else fails, you can try the “History Taking” method devised by Love Clinic. These include:

i) Current History: Events happening to her for these few days

ii) Past History: Her past education, work.

iii) Social History: Her occupation, favourite pastime, countries she has visited.

Take note of her facial expression as you go through these topics with her. The moment you see a sparkle in her eye, it means that you have hit the right conversation topic! Encourage her to talk more about that as far as possible while you listen actively on what she has to say. Try to create as many common grounds as possible during the conversation.

You are now ready to proceed to the next level.